Genesis 2:18-25 (KJV) 2:18 And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. 19 And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof. 20 And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him. 21 And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; 22 And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. 23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. 24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. 25 And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.
Cleave: According to the Mirriam-Webster Dictionary cleave means to adhere or cling.
But look at the verse:
Genesis 2:2424 Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh
When you take two pieces of metal and weld them together they actually become one piece of metal. The metal of each one bonds with the welding rod and the other. You have taken two and made them one. This is what cleave seems to mean in the context of this verse. They are made into one person. Its not just that they adhere together they become one.
The other thing that strikes me as a similarity to welding is that that they cannot be easily separated. They can’t be taken apart without damaging one or both pieces. To disconnect welded metal you need a cutting torch. When that’s done the edges of both pieces are rough, torn broken. They aren’t easily separated.
This is God’s standard for our marriages. God sees marriage as a permanent bond. God, intends marriage, as demonstrated by this first marriage, to be a permanent thing. All other relationships become secondary to this relationship. “A man shall leave his father and mother and shall cleave unto his wife.”
A second thought is this: The scripture says, “It is not good that man should be alone;” and it isn’t. Man is incomplete without a spouse. God was looking for a “helpmeet” for Adam, (we use the word helpmate these days), but helpmate for what. Was God looking for someone to cook and clean for Adam? God had given Adam a task and that was to go forth and multiply. Adam couldn’t multiply by himself; he needed a partner in that.
Marriage, in general, and your specific marriage are God ordained. God has ordained the person you will marry. In Adam’s case he brought the woman to Adam, personally. He also created her from a part of Adam. So God set out to find a helper for Adam and created one and brought that woman to him. God invented marriage and took a personal interest in finding a wife for his creation. If God did that for Adam he has done the same for you and I. It is God’s thought that marriage is the basis for family. Families are the result of going forth and multiplying. Family is God’s will and the basis for family is marriage.
Finally, a personal thought: My wife and I come from extremely different backgrounds. She is a farm girl from Ohio. I’m a city boy from California. She was a “biker chick” I was a businessman. We didn’t run in the same circles. We never would have met if we hadn’t gotten saved. We met at church, in the drama team. But God drew us together. We married when I was thirty-eight and she was thirty-five. Neither of us had been married before. (How rare is that?) It was as if God had brought her to me. I’m convinced that God has a personal stake in our marriages. Shall we treat God’s interest in our lives cavalierly?
Stream of Thought.
- Marriage is a bond that can’t be broken without damaging both.
- God’s standard of marriage is permanence.
- All other relationships are secondary to marriage.
- A man is incomplete without a spouse.
- Marriage is ordained by God.
- God takes a personal interest in our marriages.
- The basis for family is marriage.